I have placed this page here to explain why I prefer to use SSA (Same Sex Attracted) over gay.
Over the last 8 years since acknowledging I am homosexual, I have never really seen myself as “gay”. To me, “gay” has always tended to mean a lot more, implying the stereotypical lifestyle you see in the media, rather than meaning a same-sex attraction.
I don’t believe I have to change who I am to fit in or have an identity. Rather, I am who I am, the person I have always been over my 27 years. I happen to be attracted to men rather than women, and rather than it defining who I am, it is merely a part of who I am.
Mind you, I am neither judging or criticising other homosexuals who subscribe to the lifestyle, I am just really describing myself here.
Even so, you will see the word gay used a lot throughout this site and posts due to the fact it is a common word and is the best way for people to find me here through search engines.